Bailey turns 3 and tales from the potty

My  baby boy turns three
My baby boy turns three 

I can’t believe my baby boy turned three just a few weeks ago. It’s amazing to see him grow into a little boy with a precocious, outgoing personality. He is sweet and funny, clever and naughty. He’s charming and extroverted, and sensitive and silly.

For his birthday, we had a small party with breakfast snacks…it turns out that the best time to throw a toddler party is typically 9 or 10am to noon. They’re at their best, having only woken up for the day a few hours ago. And by noon, they make the house look like the morning after a frat party. Truely impressive.

Lee and I noted afterwards what a success the party was. There was no screaming or crying, children were sharing extremely well, the cupcake pinata brought looks of glee to all their faces when candy and gummies fell out the bottom of it. The adults enjoyed the sangria and food. And although, it was less than two hours long, it felt like an all night rager. That my friends is how parents of little kids judge the quality of the soirees they throw.

In other news, I must share my potty training notes here so that I can refer back to them when we have to deal with kiddo number two. I know, I know, I owe you a few blog posts since the last time I wrote a post (pre pregnancy w kid 2, pre birth of kid 2, yada yada). Back to potty training.

We started by offering the potty before baths, before bed and first thing in the morning. And then a month or so later, we went out and bought underpants together. For a couple of weeks, we suggested he wear underpants and he declined the offer ever so graciously. I don’t know exactly how it happened, but one weekend, he agreed to wear underpants for the morning. He peed in the potty with no problem. I think he’s only had a few accidents in the few months we’ve worked on potty training. We’re now down to underpants all the time except for naps and nights. The kicker is that he always, and I mean ALWAYS poops first thing in the morning – pre 7am. More like 6am… and this mama is just not willing to wake up early enough to ask him if he wants to poop on the potty at 6am.

Fast forward to last night – Bailey has a stomach bug. He wakes up at 2am with diarrahea. Lee cleans him up. Thirty minutes later, it repeats. Now it’s close to 4am and it’s my turn. So, I finally have this brilliant idea. I tell Bailey that he should try sitting on the potty. “No, no” he says, between whimpers and cries. I think about it and say, “Bailey let’s sit on the potty and you can watch a video”. I have never seen a little boy run over to the potty and rip his diaper off as fast as that boy did in response to my offer.

Next thing I know, Bailey has pooped on the potty. I clean him up and we even get to practice for another thirty minutes. See how I’m trying to frame this stomach virus thing as a positive event?! We all fell back to sleep around 5am. Just in time to get about 2 hours of sleep before it was time to get up for the day. Yay! 😦

His tummy has continued to be rotten all day which is so sad to watch, but…he is continuing to poop on the potty, so there’s that.

Must go to sleep now. Yawn.

oh wait, one more note for my first time mama friends with boys. Here’s a tip for helping your boy pee when you are out and about in a public restroom. Lift up the seat of the toilet, make sure the rim is clean, help them stand on the front rim of the bowl and tell then to aim for the water in the bowl. If they are nervous about standing on the rim, you can also hold them across the toilet, with legs together and their penis aimed at the bowl. I would have never have thought of that on my own but it works like a charm. You’re welcome.

Have any tips for how you potty trained your kiddo? Share with me!

xoxo Leslie

the arrival of senor bossypants

Two cute boys hanging out
Two cute boys hanging out

Hey world, it’s been a long time since I last wrote a post. Sorry! Time got away from me and Bailey is already 2 years old. How did that happen?? In an effort to post more frequently, I’m going to start writing shorter vignettes of life as Bailey gets older.

In the last six months, Bailey’s verbal skills have skyrocketed, and with them, his opinions. For example, recently Bailey has taken to choosing a diaper from the diaper drawer. In my opinion, this has become a perfect activity in procrastination – especiallly leading up to bedtime. Last night, Bailey sorted through his diapers in search of the perfect diaper. And then he paused and looked at me sitting on the floor next to him. He suddenly says, “Mommy, you sit on big potty and go pee pee!” (pointing at the big toilet). I informed him that I didn’t have to pee and that I was perfectly happy sitting on the floor. After a long pause of reflection, he walked over to the toilet, put down the lid and told me that I needed to sit on the big potty. Bossypants!

He also has decided he does’t like to lie down for diaper changes. Our solution? If we are in the bathroom, he puts his hands on the edge of the bathtub and then we ask him to spread his legs. He jumps his legs apart and awaits the diaper. Half the time, as soon as the diaper touches his bum, he begins to shake his body side to side singing “I shake a body, I shake a body”. It’s pretty freaking adorable even if it makes it harder to get the diaper on. And it’s better than the times he decides to crouch down naked and hop around saying “Ribbit, Ribbit – I froggie!”

The evening ended with Lee coming home early and coming up to say goodnight during our bedtime routine. We were just settling under the covers to read a book when Lee came in. Bailey’s face lit up and then he said “Hi daddy! Um, Mommy, you go downstairs. Daddy read Bay-dey book?” At least he deigned to give me a hug, a kiss and bye bye as he waved me out the door. And now I end this post, listening to Bailey singing nursery rhymes at the top of his lungs when he should be asleep. sigh. At least, he’s cheerful and not crying. The hilarious part is that he can totally get out of bed and open his door to come downstairs, but he never tries to open his door at night or first thing in the morning. Shh, don’t mention this to him, I don’t want him getting any ideas…

xoxo Bailey’s mom

16 Sleep tips: ages 0-12 months… if you’re into schedules

I love lovies
I love lovies

Baby not sleeping as long as you think he can? Baby waking up way too early in the morning? Here are my biggest takeaways from the first year of sleep meets Bailey….this post may not be for the faint of heart when it comes to planning sleep.

  1. Baby is probably the easiest to go out with for the first 6-8 weeks of life, of course mama may not be so excited about going out at that point in birth recovery, but seriously try to take advantage of bringing baby out to dinner, brunch, lunch, whatever! Ok, that wasn’t a sleep tip exactly, but still worth mentioning!
  2. Reflux can cause sleep issues early on in life. If baby gets hiccups a lot, spits up a lot, arches her back after or during nursing/drinking; and wakes up screaming periodically and seems to settle when more vertical….you could be dealing with reflux. Getting an antacid prescription from the ped and/or modifying your diet or formula can buy you more hours of sleep. Other tips include a) keep baby upright for 20 minutes after nursing/feeding b) burp baby often while nursing/feeding c) elevate one side of the bassinet/crib d) let baby take naps in a baby rocker or swing so they are more upright
  3. Around 4-5 months, baby’s sleep develops into more of an adult pattern meaning they have lighter periods of sleep and may stop falling asleep anywhere/when they need sleep. This can lead to overtired fussy babies that wake up more and more thru the night and drive parents bonkers with sleep deprivation!
  4. If you swaddle and the baby starts breaking out of the swaddle, learn the double swaddle technique. It looks kinda crazy, but It is Awesome.

    The double swaddle in action
    The double swaddle in action
  5. Once you’ve hit month 4/5, keeping baby on a sleep schedule for naps and bedtime can really help consolidate night time sleep and do away with early wake ups….here is a good chart to keep in mind from the Baby Whisperer:

    Awake time for babies
    Newborn 50-60 mins
    1 month 60 mins-hour and 15
    2 months 1 hour and 15 – 20 mins
    3 months 1 hour and 20 – 30 mins
    4 months 1 hour and 45 – 2 hours
    5 months 2 hours – 2.30 hours
    Late 5 months/early 6 months 2.25-3 hours
    6.5 – 7 months 2.75-3.15 hours. Some are getting more.
    8 – 10 months 3 – 4 hours. Some are getting more.
    11 – 12 months 3.5 -4.5 hours. Some are getting more if moved early to 1 nap***Remember these are guidelines, NOT rules, so if you feel that your baby is not yet ready for these A times, please do not force them, as this will cause further problems. PLUS, if the wake time is 2 hours, that means baby should be asleep at the 2 hour mark not getting ready to go to sleep.***

  6. At that 4/5 mo mark, aim for 3 naps a day. Naps are more restorative if they’re an hour or longer. Though the third nap is often a shorter cat nap.
  7. As the first year goes on, you may want to aim for naps around 10am and 1/2pm.
  8. If you think they’re waking up because of teething pain, give them ibuprofen! They will sleep, therefore you will sleep!
  9. 6 months or later: If baby is waking up crazy early in the morning and/or waking up crying multiple times during the night it may be a sure sign of being overtired. You may want to move bedtime earlier and get that nap routine more tightened up. The other totally random culprit for early wake ups is if the morning nap is too close to waking up for the day. A combo of an early bedtime and then extending the awake time before the first nap can help iron out the issue.
  10. Any schedule change can take 3-5 days to make a difference.
  11. If it’s a growth spurt, you are screwed – a lot of babies want to eat more during the night and you should probably help them out. This rule of thumb applies until you have them pretty solid on solids 🙂 However, a growth spurt usually lasts 3-5 days.
  12. It’s ok to let them cry a little before going to them at night – they might just resettle on their own! Oh, and once you’re past the swaddling stage, give your baby a lovie. It will help them self soothe to sleep.
  13. CIO does not work for everyone. Before you try it after your ped and all your friends tell you that you have to do it, at least read Ferber’s book first so you can read about how SCHEDULE is just as important!
  14. Read Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Baby. And visit www.babywhispererforums.com for lots of useful tips
  15. If you’re lucky, you will have a good sleeper and you won’t need to use any of these tips. BUT just remember that it’s totally normal for babies to not sleep through the night even at a year. You are not alone! But hopefully, you are not in this club…
  16. My kid has been going to bed between 6pm and 7pm since he was 7 months old. If he goes to bed later than that, he wakes up multiple times a night and much earlier in the morning. It’s because his naps are on the shorter side. Before I had a kid, I thought this was crazy talk. But really, I’ve tried a later bedtime and it does not work! If it’s not working for you, give in and move bedtime earlier!
The super cute sleep days
The super cute sleep days

p.s. who knew I would read so many books and be so crazy about sleep?? I’m a terrible planner, but I seriously love my sleep. So these tips are really all about my own self preservation! B might not be the best sleeper, but he’s not the worst. And he sure is happy most of the time!

incident report!

B gets a note home!
B gets a note home!

Well, I guess I have THAT kid in class. B’s bitten like three kids this week and today he finally got written up for it. I even had to sign the incident report. It’s a milestone in this young man’s life.

To be fair, he is teething like crazy and these other kids do silly things like put their hands in his mouth. But today, he chomped down on poor Delaney when she tried to push by him to get through a doorway. This is the same girl who gave him the sweetest hug this morning as he made his grand entrance into the Toddler 1 room on his own two feet. He walked in the room. She came over and gave him a great big hug. He promptly fell over in her embrace and started crying. Ah! young love.

I’m guessing Delaney’s mom isn’t very pleased… 😦

Note to self (and Lee): I guess it’s time that we stop play-biting Bailey all over his body – it’s just that he laughs so hysterically when we do it! But we may be teaching bad habits here. hmmm.

On a completely separate note, I’m down another 2.5 lbs at my most recent weigh-in. I also tried on several pre-prego pants and was able to button them up comfortable. woohoo! And less than 3 weeks left to go on the ultralite diet!

Message from a proud papa bear

A bashful Bailey
A bashful Bailey

Hi all,

Bailey took his first steps on Sunday. We were very pleased, but not nearly as pleased as he was with himself. He stood up in the middle of the room, took a few steps, then fell on his tushie.
He then looked around the room with big smiles, and proceeded to applaud for himself. We haven’t captured it on video yet, since he is more interested in performing for his own amusement than for ours.
Best,
Lee

He stands!

At the first farmer's market of the year
At the first farmer’s market of the year

Saturday was beautiful and we met up with friends at the Farmer’s Market in Boulder. Bailey was in high spirits and spent most of the day practicing standing up on his own. Oddly enough, he doesn’t pull himself up on something and then let go. Instead, he crawls to the middle of any given space, pushes up into a downward dog, then squats back and stands. He holds this standing pose until he gets the wiggles and wobbles and then collapses down with a giant grin on his face. It is adorable.

Man, Lee’s parents and Ellen and Brian missed this milestone by just days!! Ah well, here is adorable picture of Bailey out to lunch when Lee’s family was in town:

Playing w the slightly dangerous water feature
Playing w the slightly dangerous water feature

Today, he also began his transition into the toddler 1 room at daycare. All the other kids are walking (ie toddling) but B is sure to catch up quickly. Apparently he also kept up just fine crawling around them. After all, for those who may recall, his mother was a fine crawler well past the appropriate age for crawling. In fact, even when she was quite competent at running and jumping she still opted to crawl around quite a bit…

And one last picture to end this post. Here is B and Lee playing piano over the weekend. My two fav boys!20130406_174813_resized

He was just standing there

B by the window
B by the window

Two days ago B was standing up holding on to the baby gate and I unclipped his overalls at the shoulders. He looked down and just casually grabbed on to the top of his overalls with both hands. Wait, what?! With both hands? Yes, he was just standing there independently, intently examining his clothes. There was no waver in his stance at all. It was like he has been standing on his own forever.

After a few seconds, it was like he suddenly noticed he was doing it in public and immediately sat down. Yesterday, I got him into a standing position by holding his hand and once he was up, I let go of his hands and he stood there, hands outstretched towards me. And then with a big whine, he collapsed back down and crawled over to me. I guess he just needs a little more confidence, but I think we’re getting close! Not that I’m in a hurry, I was just surprised at how competent he looked doing it since any time you try to encourage him to walk or stand on his own he sounds like you’re torturing him and collapses into a limp puddle of baby 🙂

In other news, he has become super proficient at sliding down the stairs on his belly (feet first). He will crawl down the upstairs hallway to the top of the stairs, carefully turn himself around and find the top step with his toes. Once he’s on the stairs, he does a careful controlled slide down to the bottom. Then he usually wants to climb up the stairs and do it again. The good news is that if you pick he up and walk away, he doesn’t throw a tantrum (yet!) I do sense that toddler tantrums are not far off. Eeek!